230913 - Something strikes me.

It's been a restful semester break, can't believe that I'm going to start my Semester 2 very soon. That means I'll be as busy as a bee on my assignments and activities which I'm particularly expecting it. Oh! My August's exam results is going to release tomorrow :O Hope for the best.

Anyway, back to the topic. Yah, something strikes me. It's not much about food, outfit or anything..is about how we get along with the people around us.

Did any of you ever been to a huge/minor fight with any of your friends or family members?

Through that fight, did you realize anything? To me, I've been through couples of it, as being an insider and outsider.

As an insider in the fight, we often think that we did no wrong at all and always blame on him/her. This is what most human do, but have you ever put yourself in someone else's shoes to think on their perspective?

As an outsider, you have to tell the insider who always proclaim that they are the victim which they are on the fault too. Normally, they won't listen to what they say, they always think that what they are doing is fine and correct.

To put things short, if you are involve in a fight, by raising your voice and avoiding is not going to solve the problems at all. All you have to do is able to voice out your words properly and listen to what others says although you are all fired up. By the time you calm down, you are allow to analyse the whole arguments.

Most importantly, you have to apologize. If one is waiting for the other to apologize and it same goes to the other one, the situation is going to stuck there forever.

Also, listen to what an outsider tells you, because they see the fight from another perspective, they see things on both sides. When they point out the problem of your attitude, don't always think that you were being fine all the time when you are actually not! Being an outsider, try to talk to them, if they deny at the first time, try again and again until they realize.

Remember to always listen and voice out properly.

Remember to thicken your face and apologize although you don't use to.

Remember to put yourself in someone else's shoes to see on their point of view.